Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Finding the Balance

Balance is hard. One minute you're looking at youtube home videos of people getting hit in the crotch and before you know it the entire weekend is gone. (To be clear, that is a great use of time.) With a million different things going on, it is easy to get caught up in the hustle bustle and forget to stop and watch some more youtube smell the roses. Spending time with family, running, staring blindly at the TV for 4 hours being social, and even working a little bit all tug at available free time.  Each is important and ignoring one is a sure fire way to go insane. Over the last few months I haven't been doing an awesome job of this - which needs to change.

So, one thing that I haven't mentioned online before that makes the "life" balancing act a struggle is that just last week I crossed the two year mark of being a single dad. As you can plainly see by my yearly blog post count (2011 - 185 posts. 2012 - 154 posts. 2013 - 83 posts. 2014 - 37 posts) the old bloggero got put on the back burner as I was buried in diapers and force feeding vegetables. I have 50% custody, so when I'm not bartering with chips or fruit snacks to get him to eat vegetables, I'm cleaning or running, or doing laundry.

Or doing quick "are there eggs in this pancake batter" freak out (there weren't)

And even sometimes doing the "wow, your teeth SURE ARE BIG!"
(It was a lollipop, not a pacifier...)

My current situation, while not special, does present a bit more of a running balancing act (this is a loosely defined running blog after all) challenge than some.  On days that I don't have my son, I run in the morning. This usually requires a 3:45am wake up so that I can be ready to drive my 1 hour one way commute. On days that I do have him, I run at noon on the treadmill at work - as long as I can find the time. Which, I do about half of the days I need to.

The balance with running and "life" that I resigned myself to about a month ago is that I'm not going to reach my total mileage goals. Honestly I might never be able to run like I did in the past. But, at the end of the day, that is just fine by me because it means spending more time with the little guy and less time grunting and grimacing trying to push out one last mile.

The other tough running balancing act that I'm still trying to work through is having a social life. This one has arguably made the lowest priority on the balancing list: being a good dad, working, running, youtube, brewing beer, blogging, etc. I'm going to work even harder to combine as many of those as possible (hellooo runner blogger daddy group!?!?) to maximize my time. Either that, or I could just get some cats? Everyone loves cats!?

Happy New Year indeed!

Over the past few months, I had been internally beating myself up with my 1) lack of running and 2) lack of blogging. I think that sometimes we all could do for a bit of balance to not only justify the changes in what we're doing, but also to laser focus our time on what is actually important. For me that isn't miles logged or blog posts submitted, but instead it is time and experiences. Time spent with those around me and experiences (that I will hopefully blog about!)  Until then, I'll be the one at the restaurant promising one more french fry if he finishes his "seasonal vegetable medley".


One Crazy Penguin said...

I think it sounds like you have your priorities 100% in the right order. And you seem like a truly wonderful and loving dad.

Gracie said...

I think you're doing a good job balancing, and I'm pretty sure your son will remember how well you cared for him when he's grown. I doubt he'll be lamenting how few blog entries you posted! Keep up the good dad work :)

Pam said...

I picked up on how often you were using the term "I" instead of "we" a while back and wondered. I started to ask once but then told myself to mind my own damn business. ;) Sounds like you're nailing this single dad thing though. You haven't posted a picture of Hayden with a mohawk drinking a beer yet, so you're doing better than most guys would do. haha

Michaela said...

I see nothing wrong with the image of the man who is eating dinner with his cats. Zero things wrong.

Sue's Ramblings said...

you're doing just great Adam; Hayden is a lucky dude indeed. in the meantime, my blog continues to take a hiatus...i blame it on the insane amount of work (we're very shorthanded at the moment) :( said...

I think you are doing a great job. We all have our struggles of balancing something and you do a great job with it.

I always enjoy your posts when they come up. :-) said...

I think you are doing a great job. We all have our struggles of balancing something and you do a great job with it.

I always enjoy your posts when they come up. :-)

Al's CL Reviews said...

I think you are doing fine.

The Silent Assassin said...

I get it. You're doing a kick ass job!