Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Women taking husbands last name

Depending on who you ask, I am either a forward looking progressive man or a suburban husband. I was talking to a coworker of mine who is expecting his first baby about naming said baby (Adam or Adam-ina are always my top choices) when he mentioned that the baby would certainly have his last name. Of course, this meant that his wife did not take his last name when they got married 4 years ago. Fortunately, he was totally cool with this, so everything worked out in the end and I am sure that they will live happily ever after.

Now, I have no logical reasoning for my thoughts, however I am very strongly against my wife not taking my last name. Luckily, when the time came for me to get married, this wasn’t an issue – my wife gladly took my name and all was right with the world. However, it did get me thinking as to what I would have done if she didn’t want to take the last name. Would I have had a fit and required it as part of joining my “family unit”? Probably not, but it makes me wonder. Now that I think about it more, there certainly would have been some ‘heated discussions’ about the issue. :)

I also wonder what the driver is for a woman’s preference on not taking her husband’s last name. I expect that it has something to do with her personal identity etc. I can respect that in the sense that I certainly don’t want to change MY name.

Finally, (as if there wasn’t enough rambling in this post) a male member of the account team that I am on changed HIS name before he had kids because his name was slightly derogatory. I honestly respect his decision a lot. I am not sure that I would have had the chutzpah to do that.


bjn said...

I think both parties should change their name. Obviously when I get married you can address us as Mr. and Mrs. Awesome